Sex toys: why do you need them and how to choose them

6 min readMay 13, 2021

Why try sex toys?

“Everything should be natural,” some people would say. “But there is no point in the naturalness without orgasm,” others would object. So the first reason is mediocrity: happiness. This is especially true for women who have difficulty achieving orgasm without strong clitoral stimulation, and men who tend to reach the end too quickly.

The second reason is not very primitive either. Sex toys have an impact on no one’s life. Of course, they can’t completely replace living people (although sex robot manufacturers are working hard in this direction), but the gray daily work will definitely make people shine.

This is also true for people who have been in a relationship for a long time. A little bit of sex will only give the union a new look.

I use dessert as a metaphor. There is no need to order at the restaurant. But if you do, dinner will be more delicious. The same goes for sex toys.

Ava Cadell (Ava Cadell), American sexologist, lecturer and author of seven books on sex and relationships

In the end, even buying sex toys can become a small adventure. As long as you do this, you will not go to a dedicated website, but an adult store. Well, if this is not a routine for your couple.

How to choose toys

Newcomers may be confused in the world of sex toys. Therefore, the best solution to start is to determine the area and stimulus type you are most interested in, and choose the simplest model. Buying multifunctional and expensive equipment in a hurry, risk wasting money. Start from the basics. After this, it is obvious where to move on and whether it is needed.

A good reminder will also be user feedback. They will help you better understand future purchases.

For those who want to test as much equipment as possible-advice: start with cheap products. They were not good for a long time, but they clearly proved what is what. After that, you can choose a better model.


It is believed that the best are devices made of non-porous materials: silicone, glass and stainless steel. Their structure does not allow bacteria to penetrate inside. For the owner, this means easy maintenance, safety and long-term operation.

ABS plastic, thermoplastic elastomer (TPE) and thermoplastic rubber (TPR) are generally hypoallergenic and safe. But they are related to porous materials, so they need to be more cautious and cautious when using them.

The biggest danger is products made of PVC, jelly and vinyl, which may contain chemicals (phthalates and other substances) harmful to the body.

Latex is also a controversial material. It causes allergies, produces an unpleasant smell, and is not durable.

How to add toys to the sex life of a couple

We have already written how to tell our partners their wishes. But for sex toys, there are some rules.

First, discuss the possibility of using such devices with partners. Be careful, he will not suspect that you are extremely dissatisfied with your sex life.

Please test it yourself before entering the device into a public game. An unsuccessful first impression may prevent the desire to try again for a long time.

In any case, start using the toy gently and gently. In the beginning, it is especially important to get feedback to find the best way to use it.

If you have been a fan of toys for a long time and want to introduce them to new partners, please choose the right time to attend this meeting. In the first contact, it is best not to chatter with such information: a new impression is enough. But the delay is not too much, otherwise you may feel that you are keeping a shameful secret.


Please read the instructions before use. Therefore, the risks of various excesses will be greatly reduced.

Remember the rules of hygiene. Wash your hands before and after using toys. The toy itself also needs to be cleaned (preferably with antibacterial soap) and stored in a clean place. Individual equipment requires special cleaning, so don’t forget the first paragraph.

A better way to open dry toys. If you do not have this opportunity, please use a towel. But before hiding the equipment, make sure that every detail and every corner is dry.

Try to use condoms. Especially if your toy is porous. Otherwise, you can reward yourself with a certain disease.

Do not use the same toy for the anus and then immediately perform a vaginal puncture (and vice versa). The risk of infection is great. However, condoms can solve this problem.

If you use intimate lubricants, please remember: For silicone products, water-based lubricants are suitable. Other lubricants can damage the toy. By the way, the lubricant itself is best tested on the skin first to make sure it does not cause allergic reactions.

Types of sex toys

We continue to be the most interesting: what is a sex toy. The division here is conditional: women, men and two partners can use many devices at the same time. But in order to simplify perception, we divide them into three groups.

Women’s sex toys


The meaning starts with the name: a dildo is an imitation of a penis. There are no vibrations, pulsations and other pleasant characteristics. Designed for vaginal and anal stimulation (sometimes both together). Depending on the configuration, it can also stimulate the clitoris and point G.

There are very realistic models and those that do not look like a penis, although their function will not be worse. Some of them are equipped with suction cups or handles. There are also double-sided models for sharing.

Physical sex doll male doll, he is a realistic sex toy made based on real people, he will satisfy all your dissatisfaction and needs

Sex toys for men


A true friend of the bachelor. Different models imitate vaginal, oral or anal penetration and have different internal structures. It looks very realistic, represents certain parts of the body, or… not real.

Sex dolls. Many single men choose sex dolls to solve their physical needs and to solve their desires and fantasies. There are many types and styles of sex dolls, including black sex dolls, blonde sex dolls, and many brand dolls such as Jy doll, sino doll, etc. But their prices are also relatively expensive, there is no way to get what you pay for.

Sex dolls and sex robots

The choice for those who do not accept half measures. However, to use it, you need to be quite affluent or very low-demand. Because silicone dolls that look very human are expensive and cheap inflatable toys look funny, you can only appreciate them through packaging.

Sex robots-this is a completely different level of imitation (and price). They move, blink, make sounds and even talk. The list of human characteristics is constantly growing. Experts do not rule out that having sex with robots will become common for people in the future. But this can only be a dream.

Note: Female dolls and robots also exist, but so far, manufacturers have paid more attention to male audiences. This is why we put these anthropomorphic creatures in the “For Men” section.




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